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Learning to Trust Yourself

9/17/2019

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Perhaps one of the most difficult lessons we learn in Directing our Purpose is learning to trust ourselves and learning to trust the process. At some point we lean so far into our goals and desires that all there is left to do is to let go.
We can no more control the outcome than we can make time stand still or go backwards. But trusting ourselves is difficult, mainly because it consist of trusting the same "you" that has made mistakes; or perhaps even failed at something. Perhaps, multiple somethings.
So what's left to trust. How can you leave your fate to this flawed being known as... yourself.

Trusting ourselves first starts with compassion. Understanding that "failures" and flaws are inevitable in this process. It is the only way we learn. To live a failure free life with 0 flaws often means not trying at all. Your mistakes or your shortfalls are often because you dared to try and that's worth acknowledging, Gather what you learn from the experience and move forward. One day your missteps will serve as an inspiration, to you or someone else.

Trusting yourself is also having faith in your intentions, As you steer towards your goals, know that there is the possibility to be blown off course; to incur mishaps, that cause you to retool, rethink,and  re-strategize. This doesn't always mean that your cause or your goal was unworthy. The person you were when you made that goal believed truly and honestly in their pursuit. They (you) were directing their purpose. Bumps and bruises along the way only speak to the journey and your tenacity, not the worthiness of your goal.

And lastly, trusting yourself is about letting go. Once you understand that failure is a part of the process and your connected to your "why", it's time to move forward, detached from the perception that everything must go perfectly or happen precisely in a certain way.
Do everything that you can. Develop your vision. Do your research and by all means execute on your ideas, and then see what happens. Life can and will surprise you.
I've often found that when I was leaning into my efforts; when I was trusting myself and the process, things often turned out better than what I could have imagined; precisely because I was willing to let go of the expectation that things turn out exactly as I had anticipated.

It's not always easy. Doubt can creep in like an incessant vapor, threatening to choke out creativity and stall action. Moving forward feels tough. Progress seems slow (or non-existent) and frustration is rampant.
You can take one more step.
You can try one more thing.
Take a deep breath. Ask for the help you need. Consult a resource you hadn't considered. Go back to the beginning and review the core of your goals. Perhaps there's another way. It's ok to feel overwhelmed or out of your element. The growth process is often that way. You've made it this far.
Trust yourself.

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